A: Umm ‘Abdillaah (hafithahallaah) gave the example of Umm Sulaym, she was the mother of Anas (radhiyallaahu ‘anhumaa). She sent him to serve the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) at a very young age. He served him for 10 years. He was not a slave. Umm Sulaym encouraged Anas to be with Rasoolullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam). There’s no difference between the male and female student of knowledge. Umm Sulaym wanted Anas to get blessings and share ‘ilm of the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam). She wanted him to get practical knowledge.
Umm ‘Abdillaah gave another example, she spoke about the time when the
Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) sent Anas to do something for him. He
met his mother on the way. Umm Sulaym asked him where was he going, he
replied that the Prophet sent him somewhere. Umm Sulaym said to him to never convey the Prophet’s (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) secrets.
The Sahaabiyaat (radhiyallahu ‘anhunna) made their children fast on the Day
of Ashoorah. They assisted their children in fasting. When the children
would cry for food, the mothers would give them toys so that they would
complete the fasting – and they completed it.
The Companions stressed to the children to accompany the scholars. Umm ‘Abdillah gave the story of Hudhayfah bin Yaman (radhiyallahu ‘anhu). He was the only Sahabi who knew the names of the Munaafiqoon (hypocrites) and he kept this secret. Umm ‘Abdur Rahmaan Hanim (the translator – hafithahallaah) mentioned that ‘Umar Al Farooq (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) asked about the list of names and that Hudhayfah did not reveal what the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) told him. So ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) asked if he was on the list. Umm ‘Abdur Rahmaan also mentioned the famous narration: Hudhayfah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) stated that the companions used to ask about the good, but he would ask about the evil so that he would not fall into it.
Hudhayfah was not being consistent with the Prophet sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam and his mother noticed this. She asked him when was the last time he was with him. She gave him a stern advice. Hudhayfah said, “enough, enough, I will go to the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam). I will pray Salaatul Maghrib with him then ask him to forgive me.” He prayed behind the Prophet sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam, he did not get a chance to speak with him so he waited until Salaatul ‘Eeshaa. Rasoolullah sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa
sallam began to leave and Hudhayfah called him. He sallallahu ‘alaihi wa
sallam said, “Is that Hudhayfah?” He replied, “yes.” Rasoolullahi
sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said, “Angels are present that have never
come before, Allaah forgives you and your mother.” He was forgiven before
he had the chance to ask the Prophet to forgive him. He was very much attached to the Prophet after that.
The Sahaabiyaat radhiyallaahu ‘anhunna used to send their children out in
the best possible way. They were clean and looked good. Umm ‘Abdillaah
gave the example of Faatimah (radhiyallaahu ‘anhaa) bint Rasoolillah
sallallaahu ‘aliahi wa sallam. She would send out Hasan and Hussein to the
Prophet in a good way. They were bathed, in good clothes and perfumed.
Umm ‘Abdillah emphasized teaching the children the halaal (lawful) and
Example: Either Hasan or Hussein saw some dates next to the Prophet
sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam and went to grab some. He sallallahu ‘alaihi
wa sallam stopped him to teach him. The hadeeth concerning commanding the children to pray at age 7, discipline them for not praying at 10, separate
the beds (encourage them to pray on a regular basis) was given.
Excerpts taken from a Q/A given by Umm ‘Abdillaah al Waadi’iyyah
Translated by Umm ‘Abdir Rahmaan Hanim